Relationships
i can relate
Some friends aren't just worth keeping. It's the friend who promises to pay you back money loaned and is nowhere to be found when collection time comes around. It's the friend who doesn't even bother to smile at
when you meet down the hall but is all over you when she needs to hitch a ride home. It's the friend who gives you a call in the end of the night to tell you a problem that can wait till the morning. We've all had
one or two( or more of them) before in our lives.
"Toxic, because
they're just that: they leave you feeling unwell-drained of energy, or feeling bad about yourself. How to sift
through the many faces of these friends?
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BARKADANG TOXIC* Here are the six kinds you better avoid
The finger pointer
This is the friend who likes to blame you, everyone else, or circumstances for her problems. Everything around her seems to always be contributory to her problems. Taking responsibility for her life is an alien concept to her. Blaming others is much easier and more convenient.
Favorite quote: "Eh
kasi si(person/place/thing)
kung di dahil sa kanya,
di ako..."
The Whiner
This person likes-no, make that loves- to hear her own voice. When you meet up, it's all about her: her no-good boyfriend, her bitch boss, her manipulative mother. She can't keep a decent conservation without injecting some
drmatic narrative about her life. Why does
she do it? Simple: because she's an energy vampire- and dumping her
frustrations on you is the way she sucks the life out of you.
Favorite quote:"hay
naku!
buwisit na buhay to!
Alam mo
ba..."
*The Needer-Bleeder*
She's the type who calls at midnight asking for your
support, guidance, and understanding, advice or whatever she may perceive will get her trough the moment. When she calls, you almost always put the phone on mute and are urged to throw your phone in the
pasig river.-or change your number.
Favorite quote: "
Ano sa palagay mo? I feel so lost..
I don't know what to do..I just need someone
to."
*The Shamer8
This is the friend who likes to cut you off, put you down, or make fun of you in front of others. She likes to make you believe that her criticism is for your own good. SCARY, HUH
Favorite quote:(when you're meting up in a club with some male friends and you come in a regular off-the-shoulder top) "
Sigurado ka ba na yan ang gagamitin mong damit? Eh
mukha kang pokpok sa suot mo eh!"
*The Challenger*
She challenges everything you say. She likes to be right-always- and will pick a fight just to make sure she has the last say. Most often , she will, because you're just to tired to argue.
Favorite quotes: "
Ows talaga? Di
ba sabi ko sayo tama ako?
Makinig ka sa 'kin.
Maniwala ka"
*The Gossip*
Because she's probably afraid to share of herself, this friend likes to suck energy by talking behind other people's backs and getting the latest scoop. This friend is dangerous-heck, if she can talk about you.
Favorite quote:" O,
si diona naman pag usapan natin".
Since friendships are meant to be meaningful, lasting
relationships, you might as well be sure they're worth it. Ask yourself
these questions and see if your friendships are for keeps-or to chuck:
Am I my authentic, rel
self when I'm with this person? Am I accepted by them?
Are they critical of me? Do they pick on my job, tell me " I told you so", " this is they way it should be?".
Does the friendship have an equal exchange of energy? Or is it mostly one-sided?
Do I feel energized?-or drained- when
I'm with this person?
Does this person share my values-or does she frequently challenge or push me to bend them?
Is this person committed to the friendship-or merely attached?
Does this person celebrate my successes? Or is envious? Does she pull me down?
Do I feel good about myself when I'm with this person? Or do I feel like DO-
DOO?
